Well a hotspot / router / nat system i've found to be very good is m0n0.ch/wall . I bounce over one of these for my inet connection, ones in client mode and ones in AP mode.
I have 3 IP phones, one on my wireless, 2 on jetstart connections, when I make calls, there are no latency issues at all, sounds just like a GSM cellphone call. Then again these phones arn't wireless, they are RJ45 ethernet connected, but my connection goes over wireless, so yeah.
For bandwidth monitoring, i'm using freebsd, managed to get a paradise style ip accounting system going.
For those interested:
http://www.albanywireless.co.nz/?page=banmon
user: icepick
pass: password
These login details due to change in the next week, so check it out while you can and let me know what you think

Shot for the help linx.